I have my own tale of dating a Japanese guy so i really want to read this. It wasnt in Japan but we met online in 2002 (yahoo chat rooms) and ended up meeting 4 years later. He actually surprised me by coming to my 18th birthday party. Which was the best gift ive ever received! We spent the night bowling and dancing then got our own hotel room. We were each others first love and we were both virgins. I dont know if it was all the years we spent waiting for that night but he was very assertive.. not shy at all. He ended up staying 2 weeks with me that summer. We ended up becoming officially engaged. His mother despised me from the beginning but dad and sister i considered family. Aftee 3 years i finished nursing school and he was almost finished with his degree. Our wedding was set for August 6th, 2009. But April 2009 my mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. Because I was a nurse.. i quit my job and cared for her. They gave her 3-5 years at best. I postponed the wedding so I could focus on my mom. Unfortunately my mother passed away suddenly on July 23. My fiancee was able to make the funeral but in December I was dealt another blow when my grandfather past. My family really needed me and I needed them. Though I had planned to start a new life with the love of my life… it never happened.. i could not bare to leave my family and he still had school. We ended our relationship March 3rd 2010. I still think about him all the time. His sister told me a few years ago that he's married and has 2 children. He still won't talk to me. But I wonder if he misses me or his thought about me the past 9 years.. i can say from experience that its difficult but worth the effort to have an international/ intercultural relationship. I regret the choices that ended up hurting the one man I loved with all my heart but I can't force him to accept my guilt. Just wish I could see him just one more time or hear him call my name.